Why you should or shouldn’t wait.

There are two blog posts that have been circulating Facebook this week.

“IT HAPPENED TO ME: I WAITED UNTIL MY WEDDING NIGHT TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY AND I WISH I HADN’T”

and the a relpy to show the positive side: “I Waited Until My Wedding To Lose My Virginity, and It’s the Best Thing I Ever Did”.

I just want to personally say thank you to both of these women for sharing their experience. Especially a thank you to Samantha who bravely spoke up and can bring awareness to the subject.

I want to start by saying there are many benefits to saving yourself for marriage, I am not against it. What I am against is all the pressure on girls to keep their virginity. That ours is so much more valuable to keep than a boys and that we need to guard ours so much more strictly. What about the guys? We just expect that.they most likely wont wait and we are quick to forgive them. No big deal.Are we implying that sex doesn’t effect them mentally the same way it effects a girl?

The important thing should be awareness. Girls don’t need to be forced into taking a purity pledge or feel obligated. And people need to understand how to support young adults in keeping their purity instead of scaring them into wanting to keep it in order to stay in God’s grace.

I stress all the time the need for compassion on so many subjects. We need to support people in ways to help them do good, not tell them how they are doing something wrong or what bad things will happen if they do it. An informed decision goes a long way. Fear and disapproval only lead to a broken heart and mind.

Sex is very intimate and does need to be decided by each person and I don’t think should be decided in the heat of the moment. It does greatly effect us mentally and children should be educated about safe sex and the benefits of waiting before that time comes. They need to have the tools and confidence to express their wants and desires.

Educate inform and share – promote informed decisions and confidence.

 

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So, did I personally wait?

No, I did not. I’ve been with my husband since I was 19 and we even had our first child out of wedlock. We didn’t make a big deal about our wedding, we simply went one weekend and signed some papers saying we were married. We had already made a commitment to one another. 

Are we religious?

I grew up very religious (Baptist Christian). I took the purity pledge but didn’t keep it. I gave myself to my first love and wouldn’t change that. – Just because someone doesn’t keep their pledge doesn’t mean they are sleeping around. I didn’t sleep with just anyone.

However, I am not a Christian. I was till 9th grade. But as my heart and brain grew I found that Buddhism was what I truly believed in.- I don’t worship a Buddha statue or a God. I practice by honoring myself and others. I believe we are all connected through the mystic law of the universe.

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Links:

“IT HAPPENED TO ME: I WAITED UNTIL MY WEDDING NIGHT TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY AND I WISH I HADN’T”

http://www.xojane.com/sex/true-love-waits-pledge

 

“I Waited Until My Wedding To Lose My Virginity, and It’s the Best Thing I Ever Did”

http://phyliciadelta.com/i-waited-until-my-wedding-to-lose-my-virginity-and-its-the-best-thing-i-ever-did/

 

My Buddhism:

http://www.sgi-usa.org

 

About Elizabeth Nalley

E-RYT, BS Exercise Science & Public Health, Wellness Coach, Meditation Instructor, Group Fitness Instructor, Afaa, NASM-CPT Mother of 2, Owner of Fig Leaf Fitness. Instagram @nalleythompson Facebook.com/figleaf.fit View all posts by Elizabeth Nalley

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